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Hi everyone,

one of my friends lost her cat last night she got home and found him dead in the middle of the road.
his name was oscar and he was just a long haired moggy of some sort. he was a beautiful cat and my friend loved him so much. it was just the two of them living together (my friend and oscar) so my friend is very very upset. he will be missed greatly.

this makes me very sad, but i do feel lucky at the same time - to still have my babies with me. I will continue to keep them indoors at all times and they will no longer get their supervised-outdoor-plays.

it just goes to show that anything can happen to your cats, no matter how safe your backyard or street is. my friend and her oscar lived on a very quiet street. i hope this encourages anyone that is thinking about letting their cats outside, to not.

ps. does anyone have any suggestions for what i should say or do for my friend? is there anything i could give her to show how sorry i am that he is gone?

They have pet sympathy cards but to be honest she has to go through the grieving process like you would a human. The main thing is to just be there for her and let her talk or cry or whatever she needs to do. Let her know our hearts go out to her also.

I'm so sorry for your friend. I live with that fear every day having Smoke as an outside cat. I have never seen him cross the road, but there is always that first time and that's all it takes. As for something to do for her...a sympathy card, a donation to a local shelter in the cat's name -- just a few suggestions.

I too am sorry for your friends lose.
It hard when you lose a beloved pet and like Paula said you just have to go through it.
But a little card or what Teresa mentioned would be a very thoughtful gustier on your part.

thanks ladies i think i might send her a card or some flowers - i just didnt know if that was appropriate.

the donation is a great idea too! ill look up some local one.

(sorry Teresa, i hope you dont think i was having a go at you about smoke - i completely understand your situation and i think smoke has a better life with you than he would with anyone else. puss puss was a stray too, and she seems to so comfortable and aware outside. I think if they have grown up and survived outdoors, they are alot more careful. in saying that though, we've had a few scares with her going missing for a couple of days and im alot happier that i can keep her inside and know that shes safe.)

Give your friend our sympathies, please.
Rainbow Bridge has pins, plaques, etc. and a spot to post a memory.
A dear friend of mine lost her tabby, Zena. I wrote a poem....


Shopped a pic of her to make her look sort of dreamy....


And matted and framed it.


My friend and her husband were truly thrilled. It takes a little time, looks good, but even I could do it.

Another friend recently lost her dog. She gave me some of her belongings and I made a shadow box with pix and toys in it. The background was her baby blanket.

Hope this gives you some good ideas to help your friend through her sadness.

janilee

No Meghan, didn't even cross my mind...just it always makes me think of the risk Smoke is at, which I hate, when someone has a cat that is killed outdoors.

Jan - what a nice idea. I had forgotten that after Simon died a friend did something like that for me and I have it sitting in my den. I thought it was extremely thoughtful at the time. I also had someone make a donation in Simon's name to the animal shelter which is what made me think of that (not an original idea on my part)

(02-02-2010 04:55 PM)MGHN Wrote: [ -> ]Hi everyone,

one of my friends lost her cat last night she got home and found him dead in the middle of the road.
his name was oscar and he was just a long haired moggy of some sort. he was a beautiful cat and my friend loved him so much. it was just the two of them living together (my friend and oscar) so my friend is very very upset. he will be missed greatly.

this makes me very sad, but i do feel lucky at the same time - to still have my babies with me. I will continue to keep them indoors at all times and they will no longer get their supervised-outdoor-plays.

it just goes to show that anything can happen to your cats, no matter how safe your backyard or street is. my friend and her oscar lived on a very quiet street. i hope this encourages anyone that is thinking about letting their cats outside, to not.

ps. does anyone have any suggestions for what i should say or do for my friend? is there anything i could give her to show how sorry i am that he is gone?

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So sorry your friend lost her pet last night, so very sad. I hope her heart mends soon.

I'm so sorry to hear of your friends loss. The best thing you can do is just be there for her. It takes time to heal, as we all know, but having someone to talk to who understands, is a big help. A card would be nice too and Janilee's idea is lovely.

Condolences to your friend. I struggle myself, as some of my cats are outside sometimes...I think those lovely folk up there^ have great ideas as to what you could do for your friend. When I lost my moggy to the road...time is really the only thing that healed me...it took a long time...but it does get a little better with time Best wishes to your and your friend. Now there is another furbabie at the Rainbow Bridge, that the angels needed that day