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Just wanted to let everyone know that I am still here!!! I pop in now and then to catch up on all the gossip but with two lively toddlers on the loose I don`t get much time to myself. Esme and Tianne are now 17 months old and as different as chalk and cheese. Tianne is loud, boisterous, adventurous and is determined to send me even greyer than I already am with all her mountaineering efforts!!! Esme, on the other hand, is a real little lady, much calmer, very sensitive and will burst into tears at the drop of a hat! The court case is still going on but at least the end is in sight, because Leanne is still not agreeing to us having the girls we will have a final hearing in the next two to three months and the judge will hear all the evidence from both sides and then make a decision (hopefully in our favour).

The downside of life at the moment is that Leanne is pregnant again (silly, silly girl will just not listen to reason). This one has a different father and we have been put in an impossible situation because I am DETERMINED not to get involved with the scans and the birth because I am NOT going to take this one on as I have neither the room or the energy and I know that it won`t be her last one (she could potentially have another 10 to 15 - perish the thought). At the same time, I am still her Mum and hate the thought of her going through all this alone, she asked me if I was going with her to her 12 week scan and I had to say no and I could tell by her voice how disappointed she was but I have just got to detatch myself because the moment I start seeing it as a baby I know I will cave in - the emotions are all over the place at the moment - it is going to be a very long 7 months!!!!

Hi Steph, I ' m happy to hear those little dolls are doing well.
Sounds like there keeping grandma in shape....

Steph - I am so glad to hear that the girls are doing so well under your care after such a rough start to life. Hard to believe it was 17 months ago though! Time sure does pass.

I can't believe Leanne let herself get pregnant again! I know you must be totally shattered by it, and can understand why you're trying to distance yourself. If it continues, you'll be never ending raising a family won't you? Sending you lots of hugs.

Hi Steph,

It's wonderful to hear from you. I'm so glad the girls are doing well, even if it means they're keeping you hopping.

I'm so sorry to hear about Leanne though. I remember your fear this would happen, and unfortunately it has. Stay strong and focus on Esme and Tianne. There is much that can happen between now and next spring.

Take care,
Coral

Hi, I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I don't know your entire situation with your daughter but I do hope that by you standing your ground she can learn a valuable lesson from this.

Steph, it's so good to hear from you and great that Esme and Tianne are doing so well. I'm sorry that things are still so difficult for you but hopefully the court case will go in your favour, the twins are obviously in the best place! As for Leanne, try to be strong, you really do have enough to cope with without adding another baby or two to the mix.
Take care and know we are here for you.

Lovely to hear from you Steph , so pleased that the gorgeous girls are doing so well with all of your love and care ... best wishes for the court case, i will have everything crossed for you ... hugs x

I know at times being a parent is not easy and I know how much you love your daughter and sometimes the tough love is truly the hardest. Just always remember and I know you do to show uncondional love as our Lord has given to us. Not saying you don't so don't think I am saying that because I think you are very good.

Your cats are sure gorgeous. Good luck in a tough situation and know we are all here for you as you are never alone.

Thanks for sharing and saying HI.

Hi Steph,
I really can't believe the girls are 17 months old. Where does the time go? They have done brilliantly and I'm sure thats down to all the hard work and care you have put into looking after them. Please post some pics when you have time.
I hope the court case goes well and the girls can stay where they are best left!
Leanne is a silly girl.. what on earth is she thinking of? It must be so hard for you and I really feel for you. Sending lots of hugs and some for the girls too..xxx

Great to hear from you, Steph, and glad the little girls are doing well. You obviously will need eyes in the back of your head by now as I guess they will be toddling around and in to everything! How very irresponsible of Leanne to get pregnant again if I remember correctly what you said last time , it was intentional on her part too. It must be very hard trying to stay detached but I'm sure you are doing the right thing considering your current workload, you would make yourself ill taking on any more. Do stay in touch with us, and feel free to let off steam when you feel inclined, we are all here for you.