Cats are just good for mental health, especially cardio, they do reduce blood pressure even better than dogs can. My Stormy came into my life when my parents were separated, and at that age I didn't go to my parents with my problems I was about to be in middle school and during middle school years some of the toughest times Stormy showed up and followed me home, I truly believe cats do pick their humans as well as a human can pick a cat. Well ever since then Stormy was my baby some one I could take care of and have control of while my world was unstable. I guess I knew he wouldn't leave me even though I was unsure about others at that time. He gave me little bit of sanity in a world that has its tough times, so I hope you make the same decision and forget you mothers approval and make yourself happy, after all can't please everyone. Your mom loves you she will come around.
I have found that having Gabriel and Gabby has definitely been good for my mental health. As for my mother, she has come around-some. I am glad that Stormy found you at such a tough time in your life.
(09-20-2009 07:35 PM)missnino Wrote: [ -> ]I have never been married and I have no children. Although I am older I still want my mother's approval. It is not that I depend on it or allow it to rule my life and dictate what I do (like I used to). There is just a sense of comfort in it. Well, I told her today that I am getting a cat-did not tell her about the second one. She is upset, saying that she is disappointed that I will NEVER get to go anywhere now. My mother is convinced that she will end up having to tend to the cat. Both my sister-in-law and I explained to her that a cat can care for itself much better than a dog.
I have other family members who are thrilled for me. Just wish my mother was one of them. I guess I could tell her that one of the reasons I am getting cats instead of dogs is to keep her from feeling that she has to tend to them. You see, when my little dog was alive she would stay at my parents' house while I was at work. So, Mother got really close to my little dog (although she would never admit it)
I have lived in my present house for the past eight years. Only for the past four months have I been alone. Before that my little dog was with me. She would always meet me at the door-even when she was at her sickest. I miss her terribly and will never forget her. Yet, I am ready for a new pet-new furkids. Everyday I struggle with chronic depression. It is not uncommon for me to have a bout of significant depression. Adopting my new furkids is making an investment in my mental health. I know that I can care for them and I want to care for them. I have a good job that I work hard at and have the financial means to care for them and continue meeting my other financial responsibilities.
I just wanted to let you know that I think you have made a fantastic decision.
I also suffer from depression- I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 13 years of age, then when I was 19 and
again at 36. I have found having a cat has helped me immensely when I was at my lowest because, no matter how alone I felt, I knew that there was a beautiful creature depending on me to make it through.
As for your mum... hopefully in time she will come to understand why this is important to you. If not, well at least you know that you have made the best decision
for you, and at the end of the day it's your mental health that is benefiting and that is what matters.
*hugs*
Emma x
(09-20-2009 07:35 PM)missnino Wrote: [ -> ]I have never been married and I have no children. Although I am older I still want my mother's approval. It is not that I depend on it or allow it to rule my life and dictate what I do (like I used to). There is just a sense of comfort in it. Well, I told her today that I am getting a cat-did not tell her about the second one. She is upset, saying that she is disappointed that I will NEVER get to go anywhere now. My mother is convinced that she will end up having to tend to the cat. Both my sister-in-law and I explained to her that a cat can care for itself much better than a dog.
I have other family members who are thrilled for me. Just wish my mother was one of them. I guess I could tell her that one of the reasons I am getting cats instead of dogs is to keep her from feeling that she has to tend to them. You see, when my little dog was alive she would stay at my parents' house while I was at work. So, Mother got really close to my little dog (although she would never admit it)
I have lived in my present house for the past eight years. Only for the past four months have I been alone. Before that my little dog was with me. She would always meet me at the door-even when she was at her sickest. I miss her terribly and will never forget her. Yet, I am ready for a new pet-new furkids. Everyday I struggle with chronic depression. It is not uncommon for me to have a bout of significant depression. Adopting my new furkids is making an investment in my mental health. I know that I can care for them and I want to care for them. I have a good job that I work hard at and have the financial means to care for them and continue meeting my other financial responsibilities.
im one of thoughs people that alway want my mum to say its ok it hard not to i think