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I am sorry for your loss.

It is very hard and even though it feels unbearable now it will feel bearable someday. Your Thorne looks like my cat Cubby that I had to put to sleep two years ago. He was the best cat I had ever had and I had him for 17 years. I honestly didn't think I would ever even put myself in the situation of owning one again because it hurt so bad I didn't want to go through it again. I still have Cubby in my heart, no one can ever take that away from you and someday when you think of him it will be less painful. I am sorry you lost Thorne and will pray that you feel less pain from his loss soon.

This is so sad. I'm so so so sorry. We lost our Ragdoll Meena in Nov last year, and the wound is still fresh. Reading your story brought tears to my eyes, and I wish I had been there to say goodbye to Meena when she passed away. I'm not religious but I keep telling myself that Meena is now in Ragdoll heaven watching over us. It just helps me feel better. Stay strong!

I am so sorry for your loss. I, too lost my beloved Shyla (Persian Tortie) this past spring of 2009. My wife found her unable to get up on her own feet and we rushed her to the vet. Long story short, her belly was filled with toxins from a small hole in her bladder. She also may have had pancreatic or liver cancer. The prognosois wasn't good and they told us she may live another day or two at home. My wife & I discussed it's best to stop her suffering and put her down so she can finally be at peace. It was one of the hardest decisions we had to make.

She was the runt of the litter and had the most sweetest temperment and a heart of gold. I still miss her to this day.

A few weeks after Shyla has passed, we felt our home was missing the pitter patter of 4 little paws and the occassional meows. My wife asked about the prospect of getting another kitty. To my surprise, she mentioned a Ragdoll. She knew I had talked about wanting a Ragdoll. After a few searches, we found a breeder in Rochester and went to look at the kittens she had available. In short, we ended up adopting a blue point female named Chloe. Feisty as she is, she is the queen of our home who provided love for all.

I feel so sorry for you. We lost three raggies in the past 1.5 year.
You ask how someone get past this. I don't have the right answer, but when our raggies Herman (now 1.5 year ago) and Harrie (6 months ago) and Hendrix (died yesterday) died, it really hurts like hell and the world stood still to us for months. What got us through this time was the good memorys we have. It really takes a long time to grieve but slowly the good things come more and more to the foreground and there will be a moment you can smile thinking at Thorne, or look at a picture of him without starting to cry.
But when a friend who shared 12 years of your and his live with you dies, it really takes time to heal. I believe yo should take all the time you need, not only for yourself, but also as a kind of honor to Thorne.
We lost our 14 year old Raggie yesterday, and although we are in pain and feel very very sad, the feelings of joy having him this long and the proudness we have for everything he did for us will be stronger in the end. That lesson I've learnt by dealing with all the loss.

clyburn, I see you posted this in Nov 2008. I don't even know if you are still a member of this site or if you frequent the message boards. I just want you to know that I am so sorry to hear about your best buddy, Thorne. He sounds alot like my JJ. I lost my Jay last Sept 2009, and I still cry almost every single night for him. He, too, was my best little friend. The way he followed me around, cuddled, purred, and would 'chirp' when I walked in the room is still so fresh in my memory. Jay, too, was such a special pet. I've had pets all my life. I've loved each and every single one of them so much. But Jay was special; we share a special bond...sounds so much like you and your Thorne. Well, I hope your heart is a little less heavy now. I sure hope this gets easier because my heart is still broken over losing my babyJay. Email if you'd like to talk. Best wishes, Su

I lost my beautiful Casey a few years ago. She was my 8th birthday present from my mom..she was amazing..not a ragdoll, but definitely had the personality of one. Although she loved sleeping near me, if someone else in the house was sick, she slept with them. She was the greatest cat I ever met. I cried for weeks..months.. and sometimes I still cry. Time helps to heal..but never takes away the pain. The thought of seeing her again someday makes me happy. I hope we are all reunited with our friends. I wish the best to you!

I am so sorry for your loss.